Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Fear vs innocense

I decided to name my blog fearless and laughing for many reasons. Both are things I think are important to remember to incorporate in your life on a daily basis...when you attempt to face things fearlessly and with laughter they can seem alot more manageable. Also, fear is something that has been in and out of my life for awhile, something i have struggled with on many occasions...and i am sure i am not the only one.

I read alot...I read many types of books, but the ones that really catch my soul are the ones that offer advise about life, advice you normally wouldn't think twice about. One such book is called Fearless Loving by Rhonda Britton. She talks about how much fear can play a negative role in our lives if we let it. In her words,

"Fear makes us cling to the familiar and build evidence against the new, the daring, and the different."

Think about it...how many times have you approached a situation that is similar to a previous one you may have had? Just because one friend may have stabbed you in the back, or if one boyfriend cheated on you, or even if one bartender was rude...that doesn't mean all of them will do the same thing. So, putting your guard up and assuming the same things will happen to you...well that is just silly and full of fear. You cling to what you know, and build evidence against what you don't because that is easier. It all goes along with the same thoughts as:

"Two roads diverged in the woods, and I, I took the one less traveled by and that has made all the difference" and...

"Some people think it is holding that makes us strong...sometimes it's letting go..."

"To get something you never had, you need to do something you never did"

Fear can rule our lives, I know I have let it rule mine on some days...and even some years! One thing I did learn from this book is to approach every person as if they are innocent. I tend to over think and over analyze EVERYTHING. "What does he mean when he says that? "That girl must not like me because of the way she just said that"...and so on. It all seems innocent, but it can drive a person crazy...I think these things because it is easier to stick with my fear...to keep my guard up, to not get hurt.

If I assume the worst than I am ready for the worst.

Wow...I honestly don't know where I just pulled that last sentence from. That is an example of how writing on here can be my own form of therapy. How sad for me, or anyone to go around assuming the worst just so they can't ever be hurt again. If you look at every person like they are innocent then it could leave the floor open for them to actually be innocent. They probably don't have the intention to hurt you...so give people a chance, I need to give people the chance to be everything I wish they could be not everything i assume they are.

Try it with me...does this post even make sense?

Fearless can equal happiness and more laughter. Assume the best in every person rather than building up your walls with excuses and maybe you will be pleasantly surprised. Dive head first in to life and life may just surprise you...now i must run along and take my own advise :)

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