Tuesday, June 8, 2010


So, I haven't posted a blog in awhile...I need to jump back in to it. I guess I didn't realize anyone was reading it until I started talking to people and they let me know they actually enjoyed reading this. It was strange, but seriously very nice to know that anyone even cared about what i had to say. So for that, i will try and update this more often.

The topic of this blog is weddings. For those of you that know me, and have known me for awhile, know that I love...love. You also know that i have been burned a time or two (and have probably burned myself as well) and you may think attending a wedding would be something i don't look forward to, or something i get sad about. Of course part of me does get a little sad thinking about things, but mostly i think about weddings and simply feel...happy. I love weddings...i always have, and i think i always will. i think i could go to a complete strangers wedding and still look around and be completely wrapped up in the swirling emotions of excitment and joy that most every wedding has surrounding it.

Weddings are such a hopeful time. You surround yourself with the people that have made you who you are, the people that have watched you grow, the people that have helped you grow. you invite the people that you just simply enjoy, the people that love you and want nothing but the best for you. there is a room, or a beach, or like this past weekend; a beautiful deck looking over mountains filled with people that are all there for the same reason...to smile, to be reminded that love does exist, to be hopeful, to look at their friends and family and to be reminded of how special and quick life really is,and to celebrate a couple that has decided it is worth it to promise to one another in front of everyone that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. At least that is what i think about at weddings. I think about past weddings i have been to...all of them different, but all of them the same. I think about what my parents or grandparents weddings must have been like, and imagine it would have felt the same way had i been sitting there watching their wedding. i would have smiled, been hopeful, laughed and felt like something was right in the world...even if only for that little slice of time.

It reminds me of a song by John Mayer called "The Heart of Life". Some of the lyrics of that song go like this:

Pain throws your heart to the ground
love turns the whole thing around
no it wont all go the way it should,
but i know the heart of life is good.

To me, at weddings, i am reminded that no matter what has happened in my life, no matter who i may not be getting along with, no matter how tired or stressed or busy i may be...i go to a wedding and for that moment i am reminded that the heart of life really is good. weddings are, and always have been so magical to me because they bring people together from all over the place to celebrate something we forget about all too often...love.

Congratulations Amy and David...it was a beautiful wedding!!! Despite the altitude it was so great to be together with all of my wonderful, beautiful, and hilarious friends.


  1. To my dear laughing, fearless, deserving, LOVING daughter...you have brought tears to my eyes. I am SOOO proud of you. Who knew you were such a good writer?!? You may have missed your calling.
    Seriously, I am wiping tears away so I can see to write.
    Love you, your mom

  2. Christy BenincasaJune 9, 2010 at 4:00 PM

    Abby - what a beautiful blog! I think we must have similar hearts, for I too feel so much at weddings. Having had more than my fair share of bumps, have faith, you will find your way. Especially when you are not expecting it. The most important thing is for you to be happy with who you are. It was great to see you in Breckenridge and having such a wonderful time with your friends for life. Best Wishes

  3. Well said :) Your awesome!

  4. Mr. Dosch was my English teacher.